[cyberina]

Originally Posted by hepkatmama

i'm going to bust out the dear abby list: traits of an abuser:

Yeah, I'm pretty familiar with "traits of an abuser."
I've been thinking a lot about what you've said.
While several of those checklist items exist here, but I am hesitant to call anyone abusive, per se.

The word abuse implies a certain level of sadism, and I know for sure from the depths of my soul that there is no true ill intent. In fact, they always genuinely feel bad after the fact. Abusers don't sit well with admitting to acting out of line, and if they do own up to it, they always claim they were driven to it. There is none of that here.

I really do think that its simply an extreme lack of emotional and behavioral control....

There are many, many moments where it feels like I'm dealing with a case of possession by the spirit of Phineas Gage.

I have some serious decisions to make here, and none of them are very conveniently timed for school...