"abuser" sounds very sadistic. that is the thing. there is the sadistic manipulator and then on the other hand there is the abuser that cries afterwards because they can't help themselves out of the loop. they are both abusing just one is less conscious of it.
and that is the main thing... they have to take themselves out of it. you can't make them choose happy or responsible for their own actions. remember our conversation about "owning emotions"? even if i have yucky emotions i can't pretend they don't need to be dealt with. emotions can't be oops as a habit. "i didn't mean to freak." someone smart told me recently "real anarchy has real consequences." Just like my emotional expression with our friend that night, I had already accepted that he needed to know how I felt. But now its over, I don't need to go into detail or take anymore time cause he knows I am sincere. The hard part is accepting the next step, cause then its out of your hands.
i want what i want & they want what they want & if its different... well i think we should both get what we want even if that separates our goals.
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Originally Posted by Meyer Lansky  never relive that moment, or find your self in that type of situation again(hopefully, if your smart enough to recognize the catalyst which placed you into said situation).
Just repeating the same thing over and over, while obtaing the same results is well....you know.  |
i do know. it sucks for the repetitive person and those who care about them. i understand why you want to switch this to your blog baby. but this is almost a more private place online. less of our friends here.
i know this person isn't a evil meanie. they don't want to be at least. but demanding their emotions are matched is not healthy. they either have to learn to check themselves and respect your time & space or you are going to have to go to lengths to TAKE your time and space. you deserve to do homework or brush your teeth or breathe. you don't have to defend it or ask permission.
school is stressful enough. i almost invited you guys to meditation class last night. it certainly leveled off my out of whack energy. good stuff.