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Originally Posted by hepkatmama  you can help it. that is how you get over them.
going off on his friends gives him something to do because he either can't but probably WON"T be realistic about what is going on with the girl.
some girls (like me) are hopeful that the ex can be friendly and not sitting around expecting you to break down your sexual boundaries and get freaky with him. this is obviously naive of me, because 85% of men cannot be friends with girls they have seen naked.
so no matter how many times they say, "its cool, we just friends now" they are not being honest. & that is not attractive.
and that sucks. cause i would MUCH RATHER have him just say "i can't just be your friend. it makes it hard for me to get over you. i'm waiting for sex. i get frustrated when it doesn't happen."
lying to tread water is the fail.
if its not happening & you are seeking some romantic involvement then why waste your time? don't sit around on guard trying to prevent any other guys from spending time with her. spend that energy finding a relationship that just might work instead of wasting it with a girl that has repeatedly told you it is not gonna happen. |
What the fuck are you talking about? People cannot help who or what they find attractive.
Like I said, I'm not defending him acting like a douche (because that's lame) but I do understand where he is coming from because all guys have been there at one point or another.
A lot of the younger guys tend to do that (although not mutually exclusive to just that group.)
I do blame him for still hanging around you when he's still fucked up over you though. He isn't doing himself any favors at all. Might I ask how old he is?