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garagebadbwoy · 07-21-04, 08:02 PM

Just wonderin if anyone with any info on where I could get some legal advise in regards to custody situation could let me know. It's a long story, as most custody cases are I'm sure. Basically I'm sittin here waiting to hear from my daughters mother . My daughter was suppose to be brought over to my residence @ 4:00p.m and it is now almost 7:00p.m, and frankly I'm worried about her whereabouts. Be it almost 3 hours since she was suppose to be dropped off. At the moment I haven't returned to my day job, since my open heart surgery back in April, and am in the process of a dissability filling. So funds are at a minimum. No filling or court awared custody has been established. I need some legal help and advice so if any one of my friends could help me out I would forever be indebted to you! Please feel free to pm me if necesary. I'm frankly already sick and tired of the ex using our daughter as a pawn. Someone please help a brutha out with some info! Thanks in advance,Mark J

Import · 07-21-04, 09:05 PM

First of all try every single way you can think of to contact the child's mother.

2nd call police and report it as a kidnapping and ask them to put out an alert. File a police report.

also, try >>this<< website and see if it can offer any help. I believe there is a father-friendly lawfirm in Fort Worth and I think someone on the boards has contact info. Get in touch with them. They are willing to help out.

3rd, record every single thing you are doing to get your kid back.

Unfortunately, this sort of thing happens 300,000 times every year in the United States and there are only 2 states that recognise this as a crime. Unfortunately Texas is not one of them. This has aready happened to 3 personal friends of mine.

The very best of luck to you.

garagebadbwoy · 07-22-04, 02:11 AM

Thanks Beth for the info. I have contacted the fathers for kids group the other day. I just also checked out dadsrights.org as well. So hopefully something can be done about this and soon! Thanks for your time and response. Btw the ex finally did return my phone call, some 3.5 hours after the time she was suppose to bring my daughter to me. It wasn't fun wondering where in the heck my daughter was for almost 4 hours after the time she was suppose to be here. And on top of that, I really don't need to be dealing with this kind of thing just 3 months out of open heart surgery!!! I really wish I had some more specifics on who exactly to get in contact with. Any other info would be very helpfull!

Import · 07-22-04, 11:22 AM

Glad to hear she got in contact with you. I'm sorry I couldn't give you more help but feel free to e-mail me through my website. I can connect you to some dads that have gone through the similar situations.

garagebadbwoy · 07-22-04, 01:56 PM

Alright Beth e-mail has been sent to ya. Speak soon. Mark J

garagebadbwoy · 07-22-04, 02:35 PM

Damn kinda hard to believe all the people I know on this board, and I only get a response from a person I have not met or know. Man ya gets no love I guess. Kind of what you have come to expect from this board. Oh well. The best way to sort things out I guess is without useless info. So be it! Thanks again though Beth for bein the lone person to respond. I appreciate it very much. Btw did you get my e-mail. It got sent to me e-mail acct as well so thats why I was wondering. Regards,Mark J

Adam D · 07-22-04, 06:52 PM

You might want to shoot a pm to E-brake, I think he might be able to give you some advice or places to talk to.

Led · 07-22-04, 07:09 PM

I didn't know what the thread was about. I saw "Legal Help" and figured you were busted for possession or something. There really is next to nothing you can do. I have been fighting the same situation for three years now and it just is what it is. Documentation is the only suggestion I have for you. When enough piles up, it could become ammo.

garagebadbwoy · 07-22-04, 07:32 PM

Thanks Led & Adam D. I appreciate you all chiming in with that info. It's greatly appreciated! What a fricken mess this is already. It's gonna cause a whole hell of a lot of money,heartache and all the other bs I truly wish I could avoid! If you could elaborate on the ammo part, and what you mean exactly by it that would be cool. i.e. some of the records or things of this sort that you've kept etc.. Thanks again for the help and info! If you wish not to post that kind of thing, you can send me a private message.

Led · 07-22-04, 07:35 PM

I keep documentation of all things I consider "useful". Phone call context, late arrivals, cancellations past the cutoff, threats, anything that can be handy if and when I try to have her visitation rights removed or supervised. Your daughters comments, anything questionable take note of. I have a notebook and a calendar solely for that purpose.

garagebadbwoy · 07-22-04, 07:50 PM

Thanks again Led. Will get one from office max or something like that. You havent established, through the courts, custody of your child then right? So basically at this point there is not a thing that the law can do in regards to the situation, and how things go. I guess you just try to have visitation and all that stuff with out a court order. Not readin into your situation, just tryin to realize the simularities if in fact there are some. I know from my short experience with my situation that it will never work that way. My ex thinks that she has all the say so in regards to our daughter and I have none, but from what I've found out so far that is not the case at all. We both have the same amount of rights untill a court say otherwise. The local law enforcement said I need and attorney when I contacted them yesterday. This I do know and realize, however right now I think it best for me to do all the leg work utilizing the ammo your talkin about, and a paralegal. Then when the facts are all gathered, then take her to court.

Led · 07-22-04, 07:53 PM

We technically hold joint custody, while I have primary custody. I have her 90% of the time, her mom gets two weekends a month, one month each summer, and rotating holidays, blah blah blah. My main goal in this is to just get her mother to stick to the routine, by the book. My daughter does not like going to her mom's house, so if the pattern continues and My girl still hates going there, I will go fight to have her visitation removed or cut to supervised. Texas is a whack state. You get these custody provisions in divorce decrees, yet there is no defined enforcement. Best of luck to you.

garagebadbwoy · 07-22-04, 08:01 PM

Yeah were not married legally, but we've been living together for over 6 years. Not sure what that might mean, but I guess time will tell all. Thanks for your time and wishes. Regards,Mark J

Dionysos · 07-23-04, 03:16 AM

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Originally posted by garagebadbwoy
Yeah were not married legally, but we've been living together for over 6 years. Not sure what that might mean, but I guess time will tell all. Thanks for your time and wishes. Regards,Mark J

In Texas, that qualifies as a commonlaw marriage.

07-23-04, 03:55 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by garagebadbwoy
Damn kinda hard to believe all the people I know on this board, and I only get a response from a person I have not met or know. Man ya gets no love I guess. Kind of what you have come to expect from this board. Oh well. The best way to sort things out I guess is without useless info. So be it! Thanks again though Beth for bein the lone person to respond. I appreciate it very much. Btw did you get my e-mail. It got sent to me e-mail acct as well so thats why I was wondering. Regards,Mark J

I would give you advice...if I had some to give. I've never been in your spot...just your child's. I'm rootin for ya, and you should know that. If for some reason this gets takin to court...I'll take the stand for you. I've seen enough to know that you love your daughter, and you deserve to have custodity of her. That is all I'm going to say.

You know I love ya, and I love bananna....sorry I couldn't of helped you out more!

Kendal

07-21-04, 08:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Legal help PLEASE!!!! Just wonderin if anyone with any info on where I could get some legal advise in regards to custody situation could let me know. It's a long story, as most custody cases are I'm sure. Basically I'm sittin here waiting to hear from my daughters mother . My daughter was suppose to be brought over to my residence @ 4:00p.m and it is now almost 7:00p.m, and frankly I'm worried about her whereabouts. Be it almost 3 hours since she was suppose to be dropped off. At the moment I haven't returned to my day job, since my open heart surgery back in April, and am in the process of a dissability filling. So funds are at a minimum. No filling or court awared custody has been established. I need some legal help and advice so if any one of my friends could help me out I would forever be indebted to you! Please feel free to pm me if necesary. I'm frankly already sick and tired of the ex using our daughter as a pawn. Someone please help a brutha out with some info! Thanks in advance,Mark J

07-21-04, 09:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
Import Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Sometimes here, sometimes there, always around. Posts: 207	First of all try every single way you can think of to contact the child's mother. 2nd call police and report it as a kidnapping and ask them to put out an alert. File a police report. also, try >>this<< website and see if it can offer any help. I believe there is a father-friendly lawfirm in Fort Worth and I think someone on the boards has contact info. Get in touch with them. They are willing to help out. 3rd, record every single thing you are doing to get your kid back. Unfortunately, this sort of thing happens 300,000 times every year in the United States and there are only 2 states that recognise this as a crime. Unfortunately Texas is not one of them. This has aready happened to 3 personal friends of mine. The very best of luck to you. __________________ Go ahead and fly your kite, just don't let go of the string myspace

07-22-04, 11:22 AM	#4 (permalink)
Import Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Sometimes here, sometimes there, always around. Posts: 207	Glad to hear she got in contact with you. I'm sorry I couldn't give you more help but feel free to e-mail me through my website. I can connect you to some dads that have gone through the similar situations. __________________ Go ahead and fly your kite, just don't let go of the string myspace

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Adam D Feline Leukemia Survivor Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Law School Posts: 7,750	You might want to shoot a pm to E-brake, I think he might be able to give you some advice or places to talk to. __________________ This is my signature.

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07-22-04, 02:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Thanks Beth for the info. I have contacted the fathers for kids group the other day. I just also checked out dadsrights.org as well. So hopefully something can be done about this and soon! Thanks for your time and response. Btw the ex finally did return my phone call, some 3.5 hours after the time she was suppose to bring my daughter to me. It wasn't fun wondering where in the heck my daughter was for almost 4 hours after the time she was suppose to be here. And on top of that, I really don't need to be dealing with this kind of thing just 3 months out of open heart surgery!!! I really wish I had some more specifics on who exactly to get in contact with. Any other info would be very helpfull!

07-22-04, 01:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Alright Beth e-mail has been sent to ya. Speak soon. Mark J

07-22-04, 02:35 PM	#6 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Damn kinda hard to believe all the people I know on this board, and I only get a response from a person I have not met or know. Man ya gets no love I guess. Kind of what you have come to expect from this board. Oh well. The best way to sort things out I guess is without useless info. So be it! Thanks again though Beth for bein the lone person to respond. I appreciate it very much. Btw did you get my e-mail. It got sent to me e-mail acct as well so thats why I was wondering. Regards,Mark J

07-22-04, 07:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
Led Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Flower Mound TX Posts: 4,082	I didn't know what the thread was about. I saw "Legal Help" and figured you were busted for possession or something. There really is next to nothing you can do. I have been fighting the same situation for three years now and it just is what it is. Documentation is the only suggestion I have for you. When enough piles up, it could become ammo.

07-22-04, 07:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Thanks Led & Adam D. I appreciate you all chiming in with that info. It's greatly appreciated! What a fricken mess this is already. It's gonna cause a whole hell of a lot of money,heartache and all the other bs I truly wish I could avoid! If you could elaborate on the ammo part, and what you mean exactly by it that would be cool. i.e. some of the records or things of this sort that you've kept etc.. Thanks again for the help and info! If you wish not to post that kind of thing, you can send me a private message.

07-22-04, 07:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
Led Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Flower Mound TX Posts: 4,082	I keep documentation of all things I consider "useful". Phone call context, late arrivals, cancellations past the cutoff, threats, anything that can be handy if and when I try to have her visitation rights removed or supervised. Your daughters comments, anything questionable take note of. I have a notebook and a calendar solely for that purpose.

07-22-04, 07:50 PM	#11 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Thanks again Led. Will get one from office max or something like that. You havent established, through the courts, custody of your child then right? So basically at this point there is not a thing that the law can do in regards to the situation, and how things go. I guess you just try to have visitation and all that stuff with out a court order. Not readin into your situation, just tryin to realize the simularities if in fact there are some. I know from my short experience with my situation that it will never work that way. My ex thinks that she has all the say so in regards to our daughter and I have none, but from what I've found out so far that is not the case at all. We both have the same amount of rights untill a court say otherwise. The local law enforcement said I need and attorney when I contacted them yesterday. This I do know and realize, however right now I think it best for me to do all the leg work utilizing the ammo your talkin about, and a paralegal. Then when the facts are all gathered, then take her to court.

07-22-04, 07:53 PM	#12 (permalink)
Led Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Flower Mound TX Posts: 4,082	We technically hold joint custody, while I have primary custody. I have her 90% of the time, her mom gets two weekends a month, one month each summer, and rotating holidays, blah blah blah. My main goal in this is to just get her mother to stick to the routine, by the book. My daughter does not like going to her mom's house, so if the pattern continues and My girl still hates going there, I will go fight to have her visitation removed or cut to supervised. Texas is a whack state. You get these custody provisions in divorce decrees, yet there is no defined enforcement. Best of luck to you.

07-22-04, 08:01 PM	#13 (permalink)
garagebadbwoy Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: International House Of Wax Posts: 709	Yeah were not married legally, but we've been living together for over 6 years. Not sure what that might mean, but I guess time will tell all. Thanks for your time and wishes. Regards,Mark J