Baby momma drama.

[Ottica B]

Ok I've been seperated from my daughters momma for approx 3 months or so. My daughter is 4yrs of age and I've been going to see her at her mom's house right. We'll my daughters mom has been dating here and there and last week she told me if I was'nt gonna get back with her that I should'nt have the right to see my daughter because I would'nt be her dad. Now this is my flesh and blood and I love her dearly. The reason my daughters mom said what she said was because she has someone on the side that she's been seeing regularly. Now thats all cool but I don't think her view on things is correct by any means. This guy has been stayin the night with my daughters momma which is cool but today my daughters mom said to me that this guy might move in? That to is fine but I still wanna keep seeing my daughter tho. I pay child support and I'm never late with that. I just wanna come to a compremise ya know? So I called here this evening askin if I could bring my daughter a halloween costume which I've had here at my house for about a week and she said were busy! I was like well when can I come over there? She told me why do you want to? I said hey look this is my daughter to and I just wanna bring my baby a Halloween outfit...ok!?!? She is being extremely difficult with this issue and I just wanna know should I get an attorney and go to court? I feel bad that it has come to this because of some other guy...I mean damn why does it have to be like this? What should I do and if I do get an attorney what are my rights? I just wanna keep seeing my daughter man.

[jtoosweet]

get an attorney asap... i hate women like this!

[Burger Slut]

hrmmm...

What are the current custody arrangements? Are you paying court ordered child support or are you just handing her money here and there?

Yeah, sounds like there's more to the story.

[Ottica B]

Originally Posted by SUP???

hrmmm...

What are the current custody arrangements? Are you paying court ordered child support or are you just handing her money here and there?

I'm glad you brought that up. A friend of mine when my daughter was born told me if I don't get on child support then your daughters momma could at anytime say you never gave her a dime. I was like word!!! I never thought anything like that but people have educated me on what's up...I'm glad too. I put myself on child-support when my daughter was like 2 months old. I lived with my babies momma then and everything was super. My daughters momma thought I was a real dumbass for ever doing that but I believed what my buddy told me....so I enforced it on myself.

[zymote]

If you're paying child support through the state then you've got visitation rights already established. If she tries to violate those then you can pursue legal remedies.

[Burger Slut]

Originally Posted by Ottica B.

I'm glad you brought that up. A friend of mine when my daughter was born told me if I don't get on child support then your daughters momma could at anytime say you never gave her a dime. I was like word!!! I never thought anything like that but people have educated me on what's up...I'm glad too. I put myself on child-support when my daughter was like 2 months old. I lived with my babies momma then and everything was super. My daughters momma thought I was a real dumbass for ever doing that but I believed what my buddy told me....so I enforced it on myself.

How old are you?

anyway, what zymote said. If you already pay child support - ordered by the AG - then you have visitation/custody rights established.

so, what's the problem?

[Ottica B]

Originally Posted by TragicallyUnhip

Yeah, sounds like there's more to the story.

Oh like something I did'nt mention in my huge statement above? Listen me and my daughters mom have had an arrangement that was been perfect... up until she got with this dude. She's telling me if I'm not gonna be with her then someone else will be my daughters dad basicly. Now I'm a workin man who does as best as I can but I'm not the bad person here for wanting my baby in my life so you can think whatever you want.

[Ottica B]

Originally Posted by SUP???

How old are you?

anyway, what zymote said. If you already pay child support - ordered by the AG - then you have visitation/custody rights established.

so, what's the problem?

I have visitation rights/custody rights set up with the AG your correct but anytime the second party wants to say fuck you then you have to go to court to enforce those rights. Atleast thats how I understand it? I would like to know is there anything I can do without having to spend like $750.00 on an attorney?

[zymote]

Originally Posted by Ottica B.

Oh like something I did'nt mention in my huge statement above? Listen me and my daughters mom have had an arrangement that was been perfect... up until she got with this dude. She's telling me if I'm not gonna be with her then someone else will be my daughters dad basicly. Now I'm a workin man who does as best as I can but I'm not the bad person here for wanting my baby in my life so you can think whatever you want.

She can wish all she wants, but you've got visitation rights as a parent that she cannot deny. Your best bet right now is to get a copy of your child support order and see what kind of visitation is set up. I'd bet it's alternate weekends with some Thursdays sprinkled in.

If she's refusing to honor your visitation rights DO NOT STOP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR ANY REASON. Call the AG's office and let them know about the situation. They'll have a case worker call your ex and let her know where she stands. Should that not do the trick, then you can get a judge involved.

[Burger Slut]

Originally Posted by zymote

She can wish all she wants, but you've got visitation rights as a parent that she cannot deny. Your best bet right now is to get a copy of your child support order and see what kind of visitation is set up. I'd bet it's alternate weekends with some Thursdays sprinkled in.

If she's refusing to honor your visitation rights DO NOT STOP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR ANY REASON. Call the AG's office and let them know about the situation. They'll have a case worker call your ex and let her know where she stands. Should that not do the trick, then you can get a judge involved.

This is something that is told to BOTH parties at the initial child support/custody hearing. If he is legally paying child support, then he'd know all of this.

Something smells fishy.

[Ottica B]

Originally Posted by zymote

She can wish all she wants, but you've got visitation rights as a parent that she cannot deny. Your best bet right now is to get a copy of your child support order and see what kind of visitation is set up. I'd bet it's alternate weekends with some Thursdays sprinkled in.

If she's refusing to honor your visitation rights DO NOT STOP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR ANY REASON. Call the AG's office and let them know about the situation. They'll have a case worker call your ex and let her know where she stands. Should that not do the trick, then you can get a judge involved.

I don't have my child-support papers directly in front of me but they go something like this.

1st,3rd and 5th weekend I have my daughter and like fathers day and some other holidays aswell. I will call the AG office tho and I appreciate you so much for giving me that bit of advice because I feel it might possibly be useful to me.

[Ottica B]

[quote=SUP???;3389578]This is something that is told to BOTH parties at the initial child support/custody hearing. If he is legally paying child support, then he'd know all of this.

There never was a hearing I just made an appointment with the AG office and a case worker sat down and went over everything. I signed papers that had all my rights on them. The case worker sent me and my daughters mom a letter in the mail stateing when we need to come in to establish the child-support and everything else. Thats how it went.

Originally Posted by Ottica B.

I would like to know is there anything I can do without having to spend like $750.00 on an attorney?

Unfortunately, no. Welcome to the Dallas family court system. It does absolutely nothing useful and bleeds people dry. You go in, pay thousands of dollars for an attorney, and they basically wag their fingers and tell you and the other party to follow the order. That's if you're lucky. Sometimes they order you to spend (literally) thousands on social studies, psych evaluations, drug tests, parenting classes, and so on. *sigh*

That being said, denying the father visitation is legally called "alienation" and is grounds for you to get custody if you have $10k+ dollars you're just dying to spend. You have to document every single instance she won't allow you to pick up your daughter. Get a voice recorder and start recording phone calls, etc...I've been at this for 8 years and $40k now. If you can work anything out with her at all, I wouldn't advise dealing with the Dallas county courts. They will eat your soul.

[Burger Slut]

Originally Posted by Ottica B.

There never was a hearing I just made an appointment with the AG office and a case worker sat down and went over everything. I signed papers that had all my rights on them. The case worker sent me and my daughters mom a letter in the mail stateing when we need to come in to establish the child-support and everything else. Thats how it went.

Well, find your papers..and discuss whatever they say with your daughters mother.

But unless you go back to court and try to get full custody, you aren't going to be able to do much.

If she has custody all but a few weekends, then it's her right to say you can't randomly stop by.