The Business of Being Born

[alexican]

i watched it yesterday afternoon and man! i was really surprised to listen to the OBGYNs interviewed talk about how the procedures for giving birth in hospitals these days aren't geared towards the best interests of the child or the mother. and then all that about how the drugs they give you to make it better only make labor more intense and last longer. i dunno, it was just really eye opening for me; really makes me want to seriously consider using a midwife when i do get pregnant. i mean, the home births definitely look uncomfortable but they also seemed amazing with how involved the husband, wife, and midwife were in the whole labor and delivery process.

anyone else seen this movie?

[Deff Gordon]

i've got it saved on the apple tv.. my wife is really trying to get me to watch it.

[alexican]

are you guys trying to have a baby? its a very interesting movie, but you might not dig seeing so many chicks give birth in an hour lol

[Deff Gordon]

Originally Posted by alexican

are you guys trying to have a baby? its a very interesting movie, but you might not dig seeing so many chicks give birth in an hour lol

hahaha.. i don't either. and no on the baby right now.

[skelekim]

honestly I would go with no drugs. By the time the labor comes youre all ready. and the contractions hurt you way more then the process of actually having the kid. you go into a mode, and really all you feel is an insane amount of pressure.

but then again I was in labor for two days and went to work during that time as well. JUST FUCKING BUCK UP WOMEN!!!!!

[-m-]

Man I wouldn't even want to be concious for any of that noise.

[alexican]

Originally Posted by reamer

honestly I would go with no drugs. By the time the labor comes youre all ready. and the contractions hurt you way more then the process of actually having the kid. you go into a mode, and really all you feel is an insane amount of pressure.

but then again I was in labor for two days and went to work during that time as well. JUST FUCKING BUCK UP WOMEN!!!!!

theres a part in the movie where the midwife, who had a home birth herself, says that for every woman who does a home birth theres a point you reach where its like "well, these contractions are hurting but i'm too scared to push, but if i don't push i'm gonna be stuck here for longer dealing with painful contractions, so fuck it i'm pushing"

[skelekim]

the worst point in the contractions for me was right before it happened. for about 15 mins I was passing out in cold sweat between contractions. the contractions were seconds apart, no more then about 30. I didnt realize still what was going on til I went to the bathroom. weird I know but as soon as I did FINALLY clue in this wasnt some false alarm, I wasnt scared. I was thinking its worse for the child if I dont push. they want out for a damn reason. so fucking do it. when the paramedics did come they were telling me not to push anymore but fuck that. shit was going down. I cant STOP pushing, the head was already crowned. seriously wtf.

I was really in another state though. I knew what was happening but I wasnt freaking out. everyone else was freaking out for me. I knew the only control I had in the situation was giving birth whether it was time or the right place, it was gonna happen regardless.

[CrazyBitch]

I cannot imagine giving birth.

[alexican]

Originally Posted by reamer

the worst point in the contractions for me was right before it happened. for about 15 mins I was passing out in cold sweat between contractions. the contractions were seconds apart, no more then about 30. I didnt realize still what was going on til I went to the bathroom. weird I know but as soon as I did FINALLY clue in this wasnt some false alarm, I wasnt scared. I was thinking its worse for the child if I dont push. they want out for a damn reason. so fucking do it. when the paramedics did come they were telling me not to push anymore but fuck that. shit was going down. I cant STOP pushing, the head was already crowned. seriously wtf.

I was really in another state though. I knew what was happening but I wasnt freaking out. everyone else was freaking out for me. I knew the only control I had in the situation was giving birth whether it was time or the right place, it was gonna happen regardless.

this is what the women who were interviewed for the film said too, that right before the baby comes out the contractions are at their absolute worst. it was kinda funny watching how the women dealt with their pain; some of them hummed or kinda sang really loudly while others just leaned on their husbands and concentrated on breathing.

what really moved me about the film was how active and involved the fathers were. they weren't just handling the ice chips and wet washcloths. every single one of them was attending to their wife in a really tender way, comforting them get through the contractions, making them laugh, helping the midwife make things as comfortable as possible.

[skelekim]

I passed out and cussed at my mom (well not at her, she just got to witness my exorcism). I love her she put up with a lot. davy was at work, he came in right before the ambulance took us to the hospital.

[alexican]

hahaha kim

fuck you! no i'm sorry, its the contractions talking.

Originally Posted by alexican

i watched it yesterday afternoon and man! i was really surprised to listen to the OBGYNs interviewed talk about how the procedures for giving birth in hospitals these days aren't geared towards the best interests of the child or the mother. and then all that about how the drugs they give you to make it better only make labor more intense and last longer. i dunno, it was just really eye opening for me; really makes me want to seriously consider using a midwife when i do get pregnant. i mean, the home births definitely look uncomfortable but they also seemed amazing with how involved the husband, wife, and midwife were in the whole labor and delivery process.

anyone else seen this movie?

Where did you see it? I need to watch it, stat.

Oh and, I have an aunt whose husband (my uncle) birthed their first daughter by himself at home. She came so fast, the midwife didn't even get there in time. They lived through it to be healthy and everything.

[skelekim]

Originally Posted by alexican

hahaha kim

fuck you! no i'm sorry, its the contractions talking.

it was more like her cuffing her hand to my yoni saying "no, I cant do this" and me screaming" FUCK THIS BUILLSHIT CUNT FUCK PAIN!!!!!!!!! FUCK YOU MOM THIS SHIT IS COMING OH HELL THIS IS GOD DAMN MURDER!! " /passes out. /wakes up screaming in tongues.

I get angry and pissed when dealing with pain. I dont cry. I bite and yell and punch

[alexican]

Originally Posted by Luxe

Where did you see it? I need to watch it, stat.

Oh and, I have an aunt whose husband (my uncle) birthed their first daughter by himself at home. She came so fast, the midwife didn't even get there in time. They lived through it to be healthy and everything.

i got it off Netflix, so i can hold onto it until sat if you want i think you would really really like it